Not My Kid

From the time I was 8 till I graduated from High School I was a big ass geek who was picked on daily. Yeah I know huh hard to believe this fine diva was once a big dork. School was a nightmare. I ate lunch alone all my high school years. There was no homecoming, no prom, no stolen kisses at the Friday night football games. It honestly was the worst years of my life. Kids are mean and at my high school they sure were. The guys were worse than the girls. I can remember one in particular. He was a major ass fuck and made my life horrible. His name was wait for it, Forrest. Who the fuck in their right mind names their kid that. Oh and he was popluar but was fat and 4 eyed and hated me with a passion.

Which brings me to my jaded confession tonight, bullies. Back in the day they were bad but in todays age they are downright deadly. And I blame the parents. It starts at home. In this day of divorce mixed families and non existent parents our kids are just not giving the attention love and discipline they need. Moms and dads are too busy finding their new soulmate, making 100 grand a year or simply never needed to be parents to begin with. Oh but parents love to  blame TV MOVIES AND MUSIC. Yeah this Diva thinks Marilyn Manson is a huge dumb ass loser freak face but did he make those boys at Columbine snap, NO. Ladies and Gents, us as parents failed and made that happen. I am not a fan of big fat sloppy Michael Moore but Chad watched that documentary he did of that terrible tragedy and one part still stands out to me even years later. It was one of the boys fathers calling and saying, um I think my kid is one of the boys involved in that shooting at the school. Come again you lousy excuse for a parent, you call now and say this, where have you been. These boys didnt just wake up that am and say hey for shits and giggles lets kill my fellow students teachers and then ourselves. No they were picked on teased and ignored by the ones that were to protect them the most, their parents. Now I am not saying what they did was right, that was and still is a horrible tragedy. That day I mourned not only the victims but those two boys. They had no one but themselves and their dark thoughts. If only their parents would have stopped reading their laptops long enough to say hey kiddo what up, hows school. Parents stop being so strict just got done to a teenagers level and teach them , guide them and most importantly, love them. They are still kids and trust me being an outcast and picked on, well one can only take so much before they just simply crack.

As for bullies, I also blame the parents. It starts at home guys, quit having TV, teachers and after school programs raise your kids. Since the day Tyler was born we all taught him about not judging anyone. Not once when Tyler was little did he say, OMG that lady is fat, or what is wrong with that person, or wow that person is weird they arent white. Now kids will be kids and I know they are honest but parents the first time you hear your child utter those words should also be the last. No excuses. The kicker is when the parents talk about it after, they giggle about it they make a joke. So basically you are telling your kids look make fun of someone its super funny. Kids are like sponges and they soak up all they hear and see, and we are the main ones they focus on. So when you and your spouse are making fun of Rosie because shes fat, or Harold because hes black, or John because he like guys and not girls your kids are picking up on that and then go to school and lash out. Bullying is the worst ever now with twiiter, FB, cell phones and kids are killing themselves about it. While the parents of the bullies, go what NOT MY KID........

I feel so bad for kids today. I can only imagine what its like. Parents, please listen to your kids, ask them questions, know their friends, their activites and please dont ignore any warning signs. This goes for bullies and being bullied.


JD words of Wisdom: I am a just one lonely proud diva nerd who knows what its like to be on that end of hate. I still to this day know that feeling. So maybe the next time your 4 yeard old calls a woman fat, or points out a non white person or a handicap person you will handle it better.
And as a shout out to all the kids bullied, or picked on, just wait the best years of your life arent right now my fellow divas and cool dudes but  after school years. When you are living your dream life and that asshole that made your life hell is washing your car and serving your ass taco bell at 2am.
Stay strong kids, it does get better. :)