In this day and age there are so many extended families its at some point upsetting to Diva. I first fell in love with someone a long ass time ago and oh boy I sure thought he was the one, UM NOT. But out of that relationship I got the greatest joy of my life. My son Tyler. Who on 9-24 turns 18. WTF. Anywoo things didnt work out for his dad and I and we parted ways. With alot of other stuff that I refuse to post going on I made the tough decision to let Tyler go live with his dad and step-mom. Little did I know that would be the hardest thing I have ever done. See folks us weekend parents get a bad rap, talked about by new woman in the picture and it hurts. I hear constantly he or she is the worst parent ever and blah blah. Well bitches listen up, how do you think it feels being a weekend parent, I mean it hurts and it sucks. The other person in our child lives get to be us, they experience all the joy why we get all the back lash and talking bad about. Children need structure and love through throw growing years. Just think how that child feels living with one parent Monday-Friday with their rules and then their other parent on the weekend. Us weekend parents deal with alot. So honestly that is why sometimes we might not be the way you want us to be. How do you think it feels knowing our child is being raised by someone else.
Parents stop bad mouthing your ex if they are in the picture and want to be with their child. So what they dont fart bath and body spray (thanks HB for that one) they try and trust me its hard . I am thankful my son has a step mom who loves him but for years now she has overstepped her boundaries and that I would never do. A step parent can love but that person can and will never ever take the place of the parent. Think of the child and please dont bad mouth the other parent in front of them. Let that child make his own mind up.
I havent always been the best mom and for that I would walk over glass to correct. But I love my son and he is the most important person in my life. I didnt come from a broken home and at times I wonder what it would have been like if I didnt make that tough decision to let Tyler go with his dad. I sure miss those first few years when we were a family, Tyler was my best friend and I just wish he knew how much I loved him. I wish he knew I made the best decision I could at that time in my life. I wish I could talke back every dumb parent moment and I wish oh how I wish sometimes that I wasnt the weekend parent.
Jaded Divas words of wisdom: Enjoy your kids, and love on them while they are young, pretty soon they will be grown and wont need you much.
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